Introducing sex toys to your lover can be difficult. You become content with the way you do things, just like washing dishes, you have your way of doing it and you never consider change. It’s boring and tedious. In the same way, sex becomes boring and tedious. You need to ask yourself, how can we add spice to our sexual relationship? In more recent times, women have gained more sexual independence and freedom; they have become more open to introducing sex toys and props for bedroom pleasures to bring back the passion and to experiment with their partner.
Using sex toys in the bedroom during those passion filled and intimate moments is nothing new, but before you rush out to buy the blindfolds and vibrators, you need to be able to openly discuss, with your partner, the possibility of bringing toys into the bedroom. You also need to consider what kinds of sex toys you’d like to bring to your bedroom pleasures. Introducing toys can be a very sensitive subject for couples to discuss so being open about what you would enjoy and which toy you’d like to introduce needs to be discussed and both of you need to be comfortable with the arrangement.
Start with Honest Communication
You need to be mindful of how to start a conversation about sex toys. Choose a time when you are both feeling comfortable and relaxed. You can start by asking your partner an open-ended question about how they feel about sex toys. Then, let your partner know what your views are. In some cases men may see it as a threat, but if you offer reassurance that the toy will be there to bring pleasure to both of you then half your battle is already won.
Explain your reasons for wanting to introduce sex toys to your sexual relationship. Whether it’s trying something new, or wanting to put passion back into your relationship, explain how you feel. Even if you’ve used toys before for self pleasure and now want to bring your partner into the mix, always make them aware of your reasons and that you are not questioning their ability to bring you pleasure.
Shopping for Sex Toys
There is definitely no shortage of options when it comes to choosing sex toys for those bedroom pleasures. The list is endless but you may want to narrow down your options based on what you like. With the recent advancement of technology, adult toys have become more elegant, sexy, luxurious and more affective so seek out the ones that will make you feel that way. If you have never used a toy before then start with something simple that both of you will feel comfortable with. You can always, at a later stage, add to your collection of goodies to further enhance your sexual intimacy and bedroom pleasures.
In addition to the toys, you can make use of massage oils; creams and lubricants to further enhance your experience. Edible lubricants, gels and lotion are also very popular and you’ll find that they add a very sensual dimension to your intimate moments.
Gels and lotions that are edible or heat up with touch are also widely popular. These are great primers for other toys as you can use gels and lotions by themselves or with other items. Many gels are lotions are for lubrication purposes but come in fun scents and can be flavoured.
Adult toys can be fun when added to your sexual play and can really bring passion back to a relationship. As long as there is open and honest communication between you and your partner, your toys will always add a new and exciting dimension to your love-making experiences, allowing you and your partner to enjoy them for many year to come.